For when we give ourselves the label of “too late” or “too old”:
Have you ever studied expiration dates? You may know that years after the expiration date, some products are still just as usable as the first day. The reason they give a date earlier than that is so you will throw it out and buy a new one.
If we buy into the idea that our opportunities have expired, we are throwing away our belief in ourselves and buying more ideas that we are not good enough.
We are not expired yet. We are not walking around expired before we die.
Morgan Freeman landed his first big movie role at age 52. Louise Hay started Hay House Publishing at age 60. There is a woman named Masako Wakamiya who is 82 years old, just learned how to code in the past year, and is creating her first app.
Tell me again how you’re too old and it’s too late for you.
I am talking to myself as well. Especially in the entertainment industry when young looks are what sells. Models and dancers are set to expire after age 22. Hang out around actors and comedians and even though they can be of any age, you will likely often find yourself surrounded by a bunch of early twenty somethings.
The best way I know to soften those loud objections into a soft whisper-study people who accomplished what you want to accomplish later in life.
I have a friend who makes amazing jewelry pieces. She’s in her early 30s and she’ll say “The successful jewelry makers I know are in their 40s, so I have a ten year goal, I am on the right track”. I have a gal pal who’s dream is to be making the big bucks dressing people up. People tell her it’s not possible. She says “Rachel Zoe is making millions, why not me? She’s 45, so I have time”.
If we study people who accomplished what we want, we are washing away the limiting beliefs that we pick up from our daily interactions. Just like a shower daily, we need to wash off the yuck of the day, and it is best we do it regularly. Who would want to catch the common cold, or even the common beliefs? Gross.
Remember the substance of who are over the style we are being taught. The style is that we are too old. The substance is someone with capabilities, endless resources, and the realization that we can do anything at any age without anyone’s permission.
2) “If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another”
3) “The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience”
4) “You will be transformed by what you read.”
5) “If you’re really spiritual, then you should be totally independent of the good and the bad opinions of the world…you should have faith in yourself.”
6) “Don’t try to steer the river.”
7) “The worst curse to befall anyone is stagnation, a banal existence, the quiet desperation that comes out of a need for conformity. ”
8) “To make the right choices in life, you have to get in touch with your soul. To do this, you need to experience solitude, which most people are afraid of, because in the silence you hear the truth and know the solutions.”
9) “I was very afraid at the beginning, until Master told me that pain isn’t the truth; it’s what you have to get through in order to find the truth.”
10)”If we are creating ourselves all the time, then it is never too late to begin creating the bodies we want instead of the ones we mistakenly assume we are stuck with.”
11) “The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.”
12) “You alone are the judge of your worth and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks.”
13) “The Universe contains three things that cannot be destroyed; Being, Awareness and LOVE”
For those of you who aren’t familiar with Deepak, he is a leader of healing, relationships, and oneness. I became a fan of his when I started following his free meditations with Oprah.’
We are greeted by a man with a fun patterned shirt and a London accent. He greets each of us enthusiastically knowing that even though we just think we’ve come for a work day, a traditional focus group he’s about to awaken us into an experience of senses.
A national renown mixologist and local bartendar comes in to share with us the basics of what goes into drink making. Her professionalism, passion, and vocabulary set her world’s apart from the experience I had in Bartending School. I realized I wasn’t simply here to memorize recipes and throw them together. I was learning the SCIENCE and ART, the TOOLS to fly off the handle and be my own creater.
We are teamed up into pairs to create.
We create a drink called Mellow Morning and Black Walnut Raspberry Cola. We get third place and as a prize we get a brand new recipe book probably worth about $50. Lunch is treated to us–a powerfoods salad that includes a delicious well cooked and locally grown steak, and we leave with thank you gifts–really nice cocktail shakers, so that we can go into the world, and create! We are treated with respect and gratitude, and their team treats us not like we are smaller but as people who are helping them find out whatever they need to find out for their client.
This gig goes along with my values: to have fun, to work with people who treat each other like a team, and inspire you not from an ego of “I’m bigger than you, I’m the boss of you” but from the idea that leaders create leaders, and also with my value of being a creator every single day. Decide what values are important to you to bring into your experience, and you can find work that really inspires you, or atleast keeps you from snoring. 😉
I tried to sit in an office, 45 hours a week, surrounded by dull lackluster conversation and a monotonous energy. I bought into the idea that I had to do work that I hated and that bored me to financially support me as I build my dreams. But…I just…couldn’t…do it…anymore.
I read books about achieving success and completed programs to help brainwash me to success. I joined online support groups and went to local meetings to help give me that push that I needed. And it helped for sure!! But…it wasn’t enough.
I know people do it, but everyone’s journey is different. My journey involves creating mini visions like the way the Waze app celebrates with you with random prizes on the way to your destination. I don’t want to be utterly bored when I’m driving and not when I’m living my life to day to day either. Waze has the concept down–it’s in the journey, not the destination!
“My life will suck until my dreams come true”….Okay…do you know what your life purpose is? If you don’t, how long do you plan on it taking to find out? Some people search for a lifetime. Do you want to stay in that job until you retire and then make time to find out? Could take a year. Could take a few weeks. Would you like to take that gamble?
If you do know your purpose, or at least have a higher vision for yourself, congratulations! Not everyone gets that far. But how long will it take you to get to that top? We can follow traditional goal setting advice and have a statement that “By [insert date here], I will have quit my job and be making [insert cash amount here] monthly with my own business”. I’m not saying it’s bad advice…I’m just saying….I see it all. the. time. ESPECIALLY newbie entrepreneurs will say “Oh it will only take me 6 months to get established, and then I’ll be up and running!”. Well, unrealistic optimism is a necessary trait for an entrepreneur and trailblazer, so bravo! But those people may take a year to two years to five or even more until they get on their feet. I watch them and praise them for their success, but this is a warning to you.
How much room do you have in your life for unhappiness?
What if you found out today that you had a deathly disease and only had three months to live? What would become important to you? What values would become important to you that you are not focused on right now? Would you make more time for your family and loved ones? Would you take more risks? Would you choose your daily schedule to be different than right now?
“My Life Will Suck Until My Dreams Come True”-True or False? We decide.
I urge you as an SOS to reflect on these questions if they are resonating with you. Remember the substance of who we are over what we’re being taught.©️️ Only you know what you’re made of and what you really need.